Wanna Improve your Self confidence?

 “Never lower your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face."

Helen keller

"Whatever we confidently await becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy."

Brian tracy

"Confidence is courage at ease."

Daniel Maher

I believe that one of the most common wishes is simply to feel more confident in various situations in life.

But how?

Confident friends can say, “Well, be confident, man! ".

However, for someone who doesn't feel so confident, this tip may not be very helpful. At all.

There are, however, proven and timeless tips. And in this article, I'm going to explore some of those tips.

Now, I hope you find something useful in this article to help you improve and maintain your own confidence level.

1. Take action. Just do it.

“Having once decided to accomplish a certain task, complete it at all costs out of boredom and disgust. The gain in self-confidence from doing tedious work is immense.

Thomas A. Bennett

"Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment."

Thomas carlyle

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, don't just stay home and think about it. Go out and take care of yourself. "

Dale carnegie

The most important step in building self-confidence is to simply take action. Work on something and do it.

Sitting at home and thinking about it will only make you feel worse (and lazy).

Simple. But not always easy to do.

To make it easier for you, here are three of my favorite ways to make it easier for you:

To be present. It will help you to stop overthinking and do what you want to do. This is probably the best advice I've found so far for taking more action, as it puts you in a state where you feel little emotional resistance to the work you're going to be doing. And it puts you in a state where good deeds often seem to come out of you in a focused but relaxed manner and without much effort. One of the easiest ways to connect with the present moment is to stay focused on your breathing for a minute or two.

Lighten. One way to deter yourself from taking action is to take what you're about to do too seriously. It makes him too big, too difficult, and too scary. If, on the other hand, you relax a bit and relax a bit, you often realize that these negative issues and feelings are just something you are creating in your own mind. With a lighter mindset, your tasks seem lighter and become easier to start.

Really, really want to. Then taking action is not something you have to force. Taking action becomes a very natural thing. It is something that you cannot wait to do.

2. Face your fear.

“The way to build self-confidence is to do what you fear. "

William Jennings Bryan

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence with each experience that you really stop to look the fear in the face. You may say to yourself, “I experienced this horror. I can take the next thing that happens. You must do the thing that you think you cannot do.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Look, I could tell you to do affirmations or other exercises for months in front of your mirror.

It can have a positive effect. Just like preparing yourself, it can help you act with more confidence.

But to be frank, if you don't listen to the quotes above and face your fears, you won't have better self-confidence on a deeper, more fundamental level.

Having experiences where you face your fear is what really builds self-confidence.

There is no getting around it.

However, there are ways to deal with your fears that don't include knee tremors as much.

There are ways to make it easier for you.

To be curious. When you are stuck in fear, you are locked in. You tend to divide your world and your mind. You create barriers between yourself and other things / people. When you switch to curiosity, your perceptions become SWOOSH! and the world has just opened. Curiosity is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It opens you up. And when you're open and positive, you have more fun things to think about than focusing on your fear. How to become more curious? One way is to remind yourself of how life got more fun in the past thanks to your curiosity, and to remember all the interesting things that it helped you discover and experience.

Know that fear is often based on unnecessary interpretation. As human beings, we like to seek role models. The problem is simply that we often find negative and not so useful role models in our lives based on just one or two experiences. Or by misjudging situations. Or through stupid miscommunication. When you identify too much with your thoughts, you will believe everything they tell you. A more useful practice may be to not take your

thoughts too seriously. Most of the time, they and your memory are pretty inaccurate.

3. Understand the order of things.

One of my favorite movie dialogue clips is from the 1999 movie "Three Kings".

In this scene, Major Archie Gates (George Clooney) wants the little team to save another soldier and steal Saddam's gold right after the end of the First Gulf War.

Young Private Conrad Vig (Spike Jonze) has doubts about the plan:

Archie Gates: You're scared, aren't you?

Conrad Vig: Maybe.

Archie Gates: The way it works is you do what you're afraid of and get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it.

Conrad Vig: It's a stupid way to work. It should be the other way around.

Archie Gates: I know. This is how it works.

Great movie. Great little piece of dialogue. Even though that might not be what people want to hear.

The point is, when you do things, you don't just build confidence in your ability to handle different situations.

You also experience progressive desensitization.

This means that situations - like for example speaking in public or maybe just showing your last blog post to an audience - that made you feel shaky are becoming more and more normal in your life.

It is no longer something that you are preparing to do. It just becomes normal. Like tying your shoes, hanging out with friends or taking a shower

It may sound scary now.

But after doing what you fear a few to a dozen times, you may think, “Is that it? ".

You are almost disappointed at how disappointing it has become. You may even get a little angry with yourself and wonder why you avoided doing it for so long.

4. Prepare yourself.

“An important key to success is self-confidence. Preparation is an important key to self-confidence.

Arthur ashe

When you don't know anything about what you are about to do, it is very easy to get lost in vague and hazy fear and worries and start to create great horror scenarios in your mind about what can happen. happen if you try.

Getting ready and educated can be a big help here. For example, by repeating and rewriting your speech over and over again, you can practically learn it by heart.

By doing your research, you can find breathing techniques that can quickly make you more calm and present.

Or simple visualization techniques that make you feel more confident and positive when you take the stage.

This is obviously more work than doing nothing at all about the speech before you start delivering it. But it can make a huge difference in your confidence level if you take the time to prepare.

And of course, the speech and delivery of it will probably be a lot better too.

So get ready and you will feel more comfortable and confident.

Don't make the mistake of getting stuck in the preparation phase and using it as a way to avoid taking action and the possible pain it can cause.

5. Realize that failure or error will not kill you.

"Confidence doesn't come from always being right, but not being afraid of being wrong."

Peter T. Mcintyre

“I ceased to be afraid when my first business failed and the sky did not collapse. "

Allen H. Neuharth

Again, you have to face your fear.

Because only then will you discover what billions of people throughout history have discovered before you.

Failure will not kill you. Nor be wrong.

The sky will not fall. This is exactly what people think who have yet to face their fear.

The thing is to reframe the failure from being something that shakes your legs to something useful and important to growing your self-confidence and self-esteem and your overall growth as a person.